Do you want to ensure that you are getting the most out of your sex life?
Consistent, satisfying sex is a cornerstone of solid mental health. In fact, research suggests that the healthiest among us – mentally and physically – are those who engage in regular sex.
“Being in an intimate relationship correlates to healing faster, getting sick less often and living longer,” says James Coan, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville. “Good relationships offset tension in daily life.”
Anxiety raises blood pressure, which disturbs the mind and inhibits the immune system. “But when you have sex, you release feel-good hormones, including oxytocin and endorphins,” Coan adds. Eventually, you begin to associate your partner with those positive feelings, and he becomes someone you trust to be your soother during tough times.
Let’s face it. Part of a healthy sex life is skill. The more you practice and learn, the better you get. If you want to explore how to take things to a new level by integrating your body’s natural energy field into the process, read on.
Prepare for a fuller sexual experience:
(Yes, guys, preparing to have sex involves more than merely getting an erection.)
1. Access your heart energy.
Do some deep breathing while paying attention to how your heart feels. Think of your mate – how much you love or respect him or her and allow yourself to feel the warmth in your heart.
Feeling this warmth is the difference between having sex and making love.
2. Imagine heart energy flowing into your genitals during foreplay.
Only after you are clearly feeling warmth in your heart, imagine that warmth moving downward to toward your genitals. This may take some practice.
Moving energy throughout the body is a skill that is first accomplished through the imagination. With a little faith and finesse, you can move that energy down into the right place. This will enliven and expand your sexual desire.
3. During intercourse, project the energy from your genitals into or around your partner’s genitals.
Once you begin intercourse (Guys, if you aren’t sure when to end foreplay and begin intercourse, then you may not be allowing for enough foreplay. When she is really ready, you will know) do the following.
Stay in touch with that warm energy and then imagine projecting into your partner. Simple. Keep mentally projecting this heart energy into each other throughout the lovemaking experience.
4. Keeping going.
Keep your energy up and projecting, in addition to the other activity in the sexual experience. This adds a whole new dimension that you may find just as fulfilling as the purely physical pleasure.
5. Women: don’t resist the orgasm. Men: Control yourself until your partner is ready.
Then, when the time is right, stay aware of your heart energy during the orgasm. You’ll be surprised at how much more powerful it becomes.
6. After play.
No rolling over and going to sleep in 30 seconds! Enjoy the time together, knowing you just gave each other an incredible experience that involved much more than your physical bodies connecting.
Did you know?
Failing to fully enjoy lovemaking is self-sabotage. Your mind and body need to love and be loved. Your body needs to connect with others. When you withhold yourself from the fullness of the experience, you deny yourself and your partner what you need.
Self-sabotage keeps us from enjoying so much in life. If you deprive yourself consistently or fear making a deeper connection, learn how to reverse self-sabotage and free yourself from this self-inflicted prison.
To learn how self-sabotage works and how to end it, watch this free video.
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