Most people are under the impression that there are certain times when you are expected to feel bad, and sometimes they feel guilty for not feeling bad. Here are some common examples of such times: at a funeral or immediately after a death, when a friend is hurting, a natural disaster, a terrorist attack, or after they have done something that they regret. Do you think that it is appropriate to feel bad at these times? Is it beneficial (to you or anybody else)?
First of all, there is no such thing as “appropriate” in terms of the way you feel. You may or may not react negatively to these events. Your immediate feelings are what they are. Do not judge them. Whatever feelings come is what is appropriate for you. Acknowledge and accept the feelings that you have. Then, if they are negative, change them. Holding onto them or burying them will cause you subconscious negativity and eventually, physical illness. You never help anybody by feeling badly and adding to their negative energy. Find the good in the situation, and try to uplift people in a compassionate way during challenging times. Here are some suggestions on a better way of thinking using the examples above:
- At a funeral or immediately after a death: “This person’s soul has completed its journey. It has no more need for this life and has gone back home to a heavenly state of bliss. Those left behind will grow from their grief by learning to be unattached and allowing, and they will meet new, significant people as a result—people who are better equipped to help them create the next important steps in their lives.”
- When a friend is hurting: “I have an opportunity to help this person see the light. He can grow so much from this experience that he was clearly intended to have.”
- A natural disaster: “The death of many humans can be a blessing to the eco-system, and everyone leaves this world at the right time. The follow-up work will bring many kindred spirits together and bring important changes to the world.”
- A terrorist attack: “The killers have experienced their hearts’ desire. They have exercised their freedom of choice, although not in the best interest of others, and they will receive some much-needed lessons for their future soul growth. They have expanded the experience of the All, both from their side and the side of those mourning their losses. Those that died agreed to the experience on a soul level, likely before they even incarnated. Their life-journeys were over. There are no victims in any situation, and nothing can happen without the approval of the One who knows best. The laws of the universe ensure a perfect design for learning and growth. Creations are now being born as a result of this event that will benefit many.”
- After they have done something that they regret: “I do not like this feeling I’ve created. I forgive myself, and I forgive anyone I feel tempted to blame for triggering the actions that I alone created. I love myself for giving myself the opportunity to know the feeling of guilt, and to understand that this is not what I want, or who I choose to be from now on. I choose to be a better person now as a result of this experience. Now is all that matters, and now I make the better choice. I learned so much from this experience, and this temporary world was designed to give me experiences like this in order to help me grow.”
Remember that ALL events are neutral. It is our reaction to them that creates our experience. And holding onto an emotion creates more experiences that will give you more of the same emotion. Therefore, teach yourself to see the good in everything, so that you may not only feel better, but create wonderful experiences throughout your life.
About the author
Vicki Luibrand is a hypnotherapist, certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), and has a Doctor of Divinity in Spiritual Healing Arts. She guides people to heal themselves both physically and mentally by finding and releasing buried emotions in the subconscious mind. For more information, go to www.believeinhealth.biz.