Marriage is a big step in anyone’s life, and it’s important we consider our steps carefully before taking the plunge. So let’s look at three important questions everyone should consider before diving into marriage.
#1 Is it Love or Infatuation?
Truthfully consider whether you are well and truly in love with the other person, or if it is just infatuation, lust or something else. The meaning of love includes a sense of comfort with the other person, as well a sense of surrender of one’s individuality. A marriage can survive in the long term only if a couple is held together by more than just physical attraction. A sense of togetherness goes a long way in creating a healthy marriage.
#2 Are You Ready to Share Every Moment of Your Life?
For many couples, their relationship is beautiful as long as they don’t spend too much time together. Dating, hanging out or even going on short vacations together may not give a true picture of what life together might be like. Love alone may not be enough to overcome the many little but still quite annoying things that might pop up unexpectedly.
It is always a good idea to spend some time by yourself and truthfully look at how well you would get along with your partner if you had to spend every moment of the day with him or her. If you find yourself unsure, consider moving in for a live-in relationship, before taking the “marriage plunge”.
#3 Are Both of You Looking for the same things?
A mismatch in expectations is a surefire way to cause trouble in marriage. Are both partners looking for similar things in a marriage? Do they expect similar things from the relationship? These are two aspects that a couple ought to consider before tying the knot. Of course, this doesn’t mean you look for someone who is exactly like you and does only what you expect them to do. Surprise and adventure are an important part of any relationship, but just make sure you both want them in equal quantities.
Osho, a spiritual master in the twentieth century said many wise things about love and life. One of the most beautiful Osho quotes is “Love is authentic only when it gives freedom. Love is true only when it respects the other person’s individuality, his privacy.” That is a perfect encapsulation of the right ambience for a happy marriage.