A long time ago, I had a friend in her early 20s who worked a low-paying job at a grocery store. She despised her job! But as much as she hated it, there was something she hated even more—change. To her it was preferable to continue with a job that made her miserable than to move on to anything new and unfamiliar. How can you experience life if you won’t experience change?
The fear of death is a very common phobia, and the main reason people are afraid of it is that they don’t fully know what to expect. Most people avoid even thinking about it, because that makes the concept more real to them. Thus, they never learn to accept the inevitable.
So people who fear the unknown tend to be both afraid to live and afraid to die. Many people go through a midlife crisis, because they realize that their lives have been mundane (often due to fear of change), and they are afraid to die feeling as though they haven’t lived.
Fear of the unknown indicates a very pessimistic view, and a lack of trust in the universe. If you’re not happy with your life, or you have reached the end of a chapter in it, doesn’t it make sense to move on and hope for something better? And if it isn’t better, don’t you have the ability to change it yet again? Do you really want this fear to keep you from living, learning and growing?
Sometimes all it takes to appreciate change is a decision and a different perception. It is said that what you are afraid of is exactly what you need to experience. I was terrified of change as a child. My parents considered moving, and the thought of going to a new elementary school where I didn’t know anybody seemed like the end of the world. Come high school, I was forced into constant change, and I found that I liked it. Along with change came new people and new experiences. I could leave what I didn’t like and get excited about new possibilities. Several times down the road, when I wasn’t happy or felt ready to move on, I dropped everything and moved—new job, new home, new climate, new faces… I would also go on distant vacations with groups of strangers. Every change has been a blessing.
If you want to get passed your fear of change, decide to embrace it. Accept the risk, and expect the best. Feel excited about the possibilities that await you, and trust that you will only experience what you most need to learn. And then when you are on your death bed, you can look back at your life, knowing that you have lived it fully; and you can look forward and feel pure ecstasy, knowing that the greatest change of your life is about to occur. You will be so thrilled to be on the brink of discovering life’s greatest mystery. Your burdens and responsibilities will vanish. You will be able to fly and to travel with merely a thought. You will wake up from this life dream, and remember who you are and where you came from. You’ll find yourself expressing your creativity in ways that don’t even exist here on earth. You will be welcomed by angels and friends that you forgot you even had. Then you can choose your next incarnation or assignment that will guide you to best bring forth your greatness. And all the while, you will feel more love than you were ever able to find here on earth. So, why was it that you were so afraid of this? Perhaps you believe that you are not worthy of such grandness, but your spirit is what transcends to the other side; and your spirit, created in love, is always deserving of great things. Love yourself. Love your life. Love your death.
About the author
Vicki Luibrand is a hypnotherapist, certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), and has a Doctor of Divinity in Spiritual Healing Arts. She guides people to heal themselves both physically and mentally by finding and releasing buried emotions in the subconscious mind. For more information, go to www.believeinhealth.biz.